Council Members

Misty is looking directly at the camera with a small smile on her face. She has light skin, short brown hair styled in a faux-hawk, and glasses. She is wearing a black shirt with a purple, blue, and white infinity scarf.

she/her/hers or they/them/theirs


I’ve been a member of the UPS Council since 2016, and I help moderate & manage the Facebook Group, co-host Cocktails, and manage a lot of the smaller details behind the scenes to help things run smoothly.

I’m queer and disabled. The lens through which I view the world and my practice of polyamory is rooted in principles of intersectional feminism and relationship anarchy, specifically the principles of inclusion, autonomy, accountability, and equality.

I’m fluent in American Sign Language and I know a lot about a bunch of different things. My hobbies include cross stitching, doing my best to keep the plants in my garden alive, and learning new things, like how to play my ukulele.

Ford is taking a selfie in his dining room. He has light skin, glasses, and a beard and mustache. He is looking at the camera with a soft smile and is wearing a black button up long sleeve shirt with purple suspenders with white dots.


Vice Chair

Born helpless, nude, and unable to provide for myself, I was eventually able to overcome these obstacles to become a raconteur, a relationship anarchist, and The Rocketeer. Like most Utah natives, I am compelled to shout “Give, o give” if anyone sings “Give said the little stream” in a public place, but have yet to see an apricot tree bearing popcorn. I’m a man of odd enthusiasms – side-effects of my commitment to attempting to live a life of authenticity. It’s rare to find me without my trusty ukulele, Wanda, and I require very little provocation to play and sing, especially if you’re willing to sing along. I also design cross stitch patterns and can frequently be found stitching them up.

I’m happy to have found a home and a community in the Utah Polyamory Society, and proud to been afforded the opportunity to help it become the success that it has. At this point, I mainly help co-host Cocktails and moderate the Facebook Group. I look forward to seeing where the group can go from here as I grow along with the community.

Kelsey is standing at the end of a small pier smiling at the camera. She has light skin, medium-long brown hair. She is wearing a black knee-length dress with a denim jacket, and big sunglasses.

Kelsey she/her/hers


I have been a member of the UPS council for a few months and my role is to help moderate the Facebook Group. I am an introverted, queer, cis lady who has been exclusively practicing polyam for about 5 years. I know some stuff about sex work, sexual health, group sex, mental illness and economics. I love podcasts, bubble baths, and metacommunication.

Now for the mushy stuff: UPS is the home and community that I spent years looking for. I feel privileged to be a part of this thing and tremendously grateful for the space y’all have provided for me to learn and grow. Thank you, thank you, thank you.



One thing I know a lot about is navigating being poly, and/or being kinky for 20+ years. My hobbies & interests include cooking, baking, hiking, kayaking, most things nerdy, atheism, societal parity, kink and the average airspeed of an unladen swallow. Hint: the answer is 42.

Tenita is looking into the camera with a small smirk. She has dark skin and short hair and is wearing a red plaid shirt while sitting in front of a window with white curtains.

Tenita she/her/hers

Events Chair

Hi, Tenita here. Let’s see, Solo-Polyamory and RA resonates the most with me and that’s what my polya looks like. A Detroit native and will always go hard for the D. Yes, I know how that sounds. The Air Force brought me to Utah – it has been home for some time now and it’s been good. These days I make a living passionately working in RF engineering. Mom to a spunky lil kid.

I joined the group a couple of years ago; lurked, learned, and found acceptance here. This community has given so much in the smallest and largest most meaningful ways. Coming from feeling small, isolated, and ultimately broken for loving how I do, to find so many brave and tremendous people here has meant the world to me. It is a privilege to do what I can a council member and be a hand amongst many to support and cultivate this precious space.

Love with vehement enthusiasm.

Jocelyn is looking to her left, smiling directly into the camera. She is outside with rocks and greenery behind her. She has light skin and is wearing a pink-red plaid shirt with torn-off sleeves and a straw cowboy hat.

Jocelyn she/her/hers

Outreach Chair

I’ve been practicing polyamory for nearly 30 years. I identify as queer, I’m a parent to a seventeen year-old, and I teach philosophy and composition at a university. I parent, partner, and play with a variety of communities, and my current role is primarily facilitating the monthly meeting of Queers in Polyamory (formerly PolyQ) and coordinating UPS presence in Pride events across the state, including Utah Pride (here in Salt Lake), Ogden Pride, Provo Pride, Moab Pride, and erstwhile Pride of Southern Utah (in St. George). If you need someone to drive a big truck, give you a big hug, give some bomb-ass advice, or just generally treat you right then I have you covered.


Peer Support Chair

I’ve been practicing Polyamory openly for about 3 years and have two very loving partners. I’m also a mother of twins! I have to admit that I’m a Broncos fan… nobody is perfect lmfao 🤦🏽‍♀️! I also love the Utes and the Jazz.

I just found out that I’m a cat lady. I now have two cats. I wouldn’t change it for the world! I love my boys Jax and Lucky. Anyway! I’m a lover of diversity and activism. I’ve been a career, education, and mental health counselor for over 15 years. I love what I do and have been blessed to have so many resources.


Forum Chair

I’m a gender-fluid individual, defaulting to non-binary more days than not, hence the they/them pronouns. I’ve been practicing polyamory and kink/BDSM both for the past 4 years, and have been quite involved in the kink community in particular for the past 2. I work for the Utah Pride Center as their marketing person, so as you can imagine I’m quite passionate about matters surrounding the LGBTQIA+ community. I’m demisexual, gray-romantic, and live in a polycule household. I also have two kids, help parent a couple more once a week, and am on the path to being a surrogate carrier for another couple.


Education Chair

I’ve been poly since 2012ish. My husband, boyfriend, and I co-live in South Ogden. We’re out to our families, friends, and some work people. Something I know a lot about is k-12 education, Dave Ramsey, the Ogden area, and enthusiastically planting flowers/buying house plants and forgetting to water them. I’m excited to plan education events for the group!

Giancarlo has light skin, red hair, a beard and mustache, and is looking to his right. He has a small silver hoop in the lobe of his ear.

Giancarlo he/him/his

Member at Large

My name sounds like John-carlo (no “S”). Bringing a unique set of life experiences and personal history to the table, I hope to honor the community’s confidence by fostering safety, equality, and growth. My current contribution is primarily logistical and event support.

I work a lot (show business, baby), practice Kitchen Table/family style polyamory, and have recently been dubbed step father sans matrimony. Something I know a lot about is stagecraft and event management.

I’m a geek, multilingual, and a pantheist. I enjoy the theatrical and martial arts, golf, and team based/competitive games and sports. As an alumnus of two military schools, you can expect me to hold honesty, integrity, and community in high regard. I have an even-tempered demeanor, and welcome all (consensual forms of) contact and constructive criticisms.


Member at Large

I want to help build a stronger, more active community in Utah county, including hosting events down here. Something I know a lot about is probably bread, but polyamory related is how to navigate trial and error. I also like to be helpful to people who are new to polyamory.

Daniel is smiling at the camera and wearing a blue-gray shirt. He has light skin, piercing blue eyes, and gray/silver hair down to his shoulders. We can only see from his shoulders up.


Member at Large

I’ve been in and out of polyamory since 1974. I have tried and pretend to myself that I could be monogamous. After many dramas, and a few adventures, I realized I’m always polyamorous.

I work as a Feldenkrais practitioner, and many of my sessions are about finding physical resolutions to sexual abuse and assaults. I also work on issues of gender identity and physical presentation. Occasionally, my professional training gives me perspective to offer our community.

Friends and colleagues help me learn more about issues of bias and marginalization. Communicating regularly with advocates for women, POC, LGBTQ+, persons with disabilities and/or chronic illness, and other oppressed groups continues to be informative.

My goal here is to help the group members support each other. Many of us have been wounded around our sexual expression. I hope we can take those wounds and grow into a force for healthy sexuality, whatever that may mean to each of us. Kindness, clarity, and effectiveness can be nurtured.