2nd Annual Poly Prom

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You are cordially invited to Utah Polyamory Society’s Second Annual Valentine’s Day Poly Prom. Don your finest accoutrement, link arms with your loving poly web, and join us for a night of dancing and celebration! There will even be an opportunity to have your pictures taken in your finery, immortalizing you and your loves at your most dapper, lovely, and…dovely? Lapper?

All proceeds go to the Utah Polyamory Society’s operating costs for the year.

Light refreshments will be served and non-alcoholic beverages will be available. We’re unable to provide alcoholic beverages, but you’re more than welcome to bring some for yourself or to share.

You will find more information and online tickets at:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ups-valentines-day-poly-prom-2017-tickets-31048234104?aff=facebook

You may also purchase tickets in-person from a UPS admin. Donations are always accepted for those that are able and feeling generous.

Feel free to invite like-minded individuals to the event.

Get your tickets now; prices will increase on February 5th!

Get your ticket to our Valentine’s Day Poly Prom!

We’ve got an exciting new event coming up on February 6th! Get your taffeta shined up and your tails let loose, because the UPS Valentine’s Day Poly Prom is coming your way, like so many awkward adolescent love notes.

What’s that you say? Your high school only sold tickets in pairs and totally didn’t understand how your relationships actually work? We’ve got you covered! Come in singles, pairs, pods, quads, triad, many-ads or whatever you want! The more the merrier.

Get your tickets now–prices go up after January 16th!

Check the event link in the image below for FAQs, ticket pricing, as well as group discount and scholarship options. We can’t wait to see your lovely poly family!

Utah Polyamory Society Poly Valentines Formal and Fundraiser on February 6 at 8 pm

Are techies poly? Or are polyamorous people techies?

Are engineers really more likely to be polyamorous?

This looks and feels a bit more like a subtle advertisement for a poly dating website, but it has a few interesting morsels of food for thought. It often appears that a number of the Utah Polyamorists (who actively attend meetups for our group, or that regularly engage fellow members online) are technically savvy and are bent toward engineering-related fields.

If we were to conduct a census, would that feeling stack up against the numbers? Could we draw anything from it? It may be that polyamorists who are more technical to begin with come forward to join online forums and utilize new forms of digital dating, rather than those folks composing a good percentage of the overall polyamorous population pie.

What do you think?

(I.)

 

Polyamorous Civil Rights?

Polyamory Is Next, And I’m One Reason Why

This article is definitely not clear on what’s “next” for polyamory, though I assume it’s civil rights and more formal recognition of individuality outside the constraints of a standard monogamous marriage model. But there are likely as many questions around how to do that as there are ways in which to practice polyamory.

Should we look to have marriages make room for open relationships and polyamory? Or should we instead focus on improved individual rights and look to get rid of marriage entirely?

If we open things up to permit polyamorous marriages, that would certain add layers of complexity to a variety of elements in life: divorce, custody or property rights, and all the way down to who the primary contact is for a child in school.

Are we taking all the romance away from marriage (particularly with America’s focus on marrying for love) by turning the system into something more akin to contract law? Do poly families simply need a cut and dry method for creating a small legal entity (like an LLC) to be recognized in society? Would that take all the fun out of it?

With the battle for equal marriage having made great strides, it would also be prudent to look at what it took to gain that recognition – asking our government to strip away “marriage” entirely at this stage would be a very long battle. Polaymorists would not have the support of the monogamous queer community behind them, either.

All that aside, there is a general problem in the author’s argument. They discuss independence and individuality without ever looking at the potential desire or need for splitting from their partner and co-parent in order to become truly solo and self-reliant.

A final question after reading this article might instead be…is the author truly polyamorous? Or are they just looking to add some spice into the bedroom of their existing relationship? Is this person looking at and approaching poly from the right perspective?

(I.)

This video has some interesting information, though it is NSFW.
Enjoy!

Discussion points we covered in the Facebook group included:

  • Some personal stats and experiences,
  • Repression of sex and sexuality in the US (and Utah) culture(s),
  • Apparently there are several poly folks with semi-porn sex lives.

What do you think?

Random click bait for you all.

Dating two people at once: why I’m polyamorous and proud

There’s actually a fair amount of discussion that goes on in our Facebook group around sexuality and polyamory. This article touches on a few things that hit close to home for me. Having come out a fair few times (first I was an atheist, then I was queer, then I was gender variant, and now I’m out as poly), it can be rather tricky to traverse all the closets.

There’s a stigma for queer people, either gay males or bisexuals of any gender, that we’re required to be sexually promiscuous. So in some respects there’s a cultural acceptance that we’ll be open, but the understanding is that it’s not necessarily an open and ethical arrangement. We just cheat, right?

Wrong.

Polyamory can be a lot of work. And there are a lot of people who don’t necessarily practice it in healthy ways. But reading about examples of folks from a variety of sexualities can be helpful for us all to find a form of polyamory that works for us.

As we work to change some of those stereotypes around sexuality, polyamory gives us a good system (though we all build our own structures) for expressing our desire, practicing ethical non-monogamy, and helping to build a new culture.

-Isaac

Provo Pride – Another Great Poly Success!

Not to toot our own horns (okay, maybe a little), but we were able to join the Provo Pride festival last Saturday, September 19th. This is our first year at the festival but the third incarnation of it overall. Check out more about Provo Pride here, especially if you’d like to volunteer and get involved.

We had some really excellent conversation about polyamory – what it is, how we practice ethical non-monogamy, and ways to open yourself to multiple relationships. It was also a lovely warm day (after a week of some pretty gnarly weather), so that was a bonus.

Our booth activity is traditionally to have folks draw pictures of their family and their loves. We had some really gorgeous art come from visitors, so we took some pictures to share! Take a gander. 🙂

Ogden Pride Success!

We were able to work with Ogden Pride for a great deal on a booth so that we could represent the many ways people love in another part of Utah. It was a really exciting day as well. Council members Heather, Jessie, and Isaac were able to person the booth for the duration of the one-day event. We saw some old faces (looking at you, Ogden Poly Coffee group!) as well as some new.

Similar to SLC Pride, we did an activity at the booth where people young and old were invited to draw who they love in their poly family/pod/cule! If they were willing after, we hung the family portraits on some string for everyone to enjoy. There are some very interesting poly configurations out there, and this is an excellent way to take a look at just how many there are.

There are many great stories to tell, but one that stood out was a younger person drawing their family and asking some questions bout polyamory in general. After defining the word and explaining it a bit, we asked them if they knew anyone who was poly. After a bit of thought and some head-shaking, their parent stepped in to say “Yes, we do! You know the X’s and then the other family the Y’s? They are poly!”
The young person had a moment of realization dawn on them and started talking more about it with the parent figure as they walked away. Spectacular!

If you have any great Ogden Pride stories or snippets to share (particularly if you came by the booth to say hello) please share in the comments!

Also, you can help us get to Provo Pride as well!

The Utah Polyamory Society has Pride!

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We’d love to table and represent our poly and queer peers at both the Ogden and Provo Pride festivals (Ogden is doing it for the first year ever!). We need to do a little fundraising to cover the entry, booth charge, insurance, and so forth.

Do you have five or ten dollars that you could contribute? We’d be ever so glad if you could throw that our way. And if you’re at either of the pride festivals (or both!) we’d also be really happy to see you, so you should come say hi!
Link in the image above or the text below!

UPS Pride Donation Link!