Ogden Pride Success!

We were able to work with Ogden Pride for a great deal on a booth so that we could represent the many ways people love in another part of Utah. It was a really exciting day as well. Council members Heather, Jessie, and Isaac were able to person the booth for the duration of the one-day event. We saw some old faces (looking at you, Ogden Poly Coffee group!) as well as some new.

Similar to SLC Pride, we did an activity at the booth where people young and old were invited to draw who they love in their poly family/pod/cule! If they were willing after, we hung the family portraits on some string for everyone to enjoy. There are some very interesting poly configurations out there, and this is an excellent way to take a look at just how many there are.

There are many great stories to tell, but one that stood out was a younger person drawing their family and asking some questions bout polyamory in general. After defining the word and explaining it a bit, we asked them if they knew anyone who was poly. After a bit of thought and some head-shaking, their parent stepped in to say “Yes, we do! You know the X’s and then the other family the Y’s? They are poly!”
The young person had a moment of realization dawn on them and started talking more about it with the parent figure as they walked away. Spectacular!

If you have any great Ogden Pride stories or snippets to share (particularly if you came by the booth to say hello) please share in the comments!

Also, you can help us get to Provo Pride as well!

The Utah Polyamory Society has Pride!

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We’d love to table and represent our poly and queer peers at both the Ogden and Provo Pride festivals (Ogden is doing it for the first year ever!). We need to do a little fundraising to cover the entry, booth charge, insurance, and so forth.

Do you have five or ten dollars that you could contribute? We’d be ever so glad if you could throw that our way. And if you’re at either of the pride festivals (or both!) we’d also be really happy to see you, so you should come say hi!
Link in the image above or the text below!

UPS Pride Donation Link!

“…sexuality outside the field of monogamy well may open us to a different sense of community, intensifying the question of where one finds enduring ties.”

— Judith Butler, Undoing Gender

Speaking of freedom…

“For me, any arrangement which would involve the love of only one at a time would be sufficient to condemn it. Not to be free to love is the hardest of all slavery. But marriage is like taking a path in which there is only room for two. And a man and a woman cannot take up a position before the world as dearest friends or lovers–call the relation by any name you choose–without by that action cutting themselves off from all fullness and spontaneity of other love and friendship.”
Zelm (Sarah Holmes), 1888

Sunday Clickbait

To kickstart some content and help provide some reading and resources for our lovely Utah Poly folks, here’s a link!

Am I a Fool for Opening My Marriage, Or Can I Learn to Be Okay with My Wife Having a Lover?

I think a lot of people find themselves in this boat as they venture into poly from existing monogamous relationships (or a history of being monogamous, even). “…[W]hat can happen when we are so afraid of losing our One Good Thing [is] that we in fact cause our worst fears to come true.”

Feel free to comment on your experiences around overcoming the initial fears and jealous pitfalls you may have encountered early in poly – and how you worked through it! Enjoy!

Winter is coming….

Louise_De_Hem_-_1910_-_Pandora's_BoxAnd by winter we mean blog content!

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