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Dating two people at once: why I’m polyamorous and proud

There’s actually a fair amount of discussion that goes on in our Facebook group around sexuality and polyamory. This article touches on a few things that hit close to home for me. Having come out a fair few times (first I was an atheist, then I was queer, then I was gender variant, and now I’m out as poly), it can be rather tricky to traverse all the closets.

There’s a stigma for queer people, either gay males or bisexuals of any gender, that we’re required to be sexually promiscuous. So in some respects there’s a cultural acceptance that we’ll be open, but the understanding is that it’s not necessarily an open and ethical arrangement. We just cheat, right?

Wrong.

Polyamory can be a lot of work. And there are a lot of people who don’t necessarily practice it in healthy ways. But reading about examples of folks from a variety of sexualities can be helpful for us all to find a form of polyamory that works for us.

As we work to change some of those stereotypes around sexuality, polyamory gives us a good system (though we all build our own structures) for expressing our desire, practicing ethical non-monogamy, and helping to build a new culture.

-Isaac

Speaking of freedom…

“For me, any arrangement which would involve the love of only one at a time would be sufficient to condemn it. Not to be free to love is the hardest of all slavery. But marriage is like taking a path in which there is only room for two. And a man and a woman cannot take up a position before the world as dearest friends or lovers–call the relation by any name you choose–without by that action cutting themselves off from all fullness and spontaneity of other love and friendship.”
Zelm (Sarah Holmes), 1888