DC Comics: Harley Quinn & Poison Ivy Are Girlfriends “Without Monogamy”

For all our poly nerds out there, here’s a fun little poly queer win (if you haven’t already seen this). Confirmation of the relationship between Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy comes from writers Jimmy Palmiotti and Amanda Conner. Hell yeah!

Isaac (I.)

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This video has some interesting information, though it is NSFW.
Enjoy!

Discussion points we covered in the Facebook group included:

  • Some personal stats and experiences,
  • Repression of sex and sexuality in the US (and Utah) culture(s),
  • Apparently there are several poly folks with semi-porn sex lives.

What do you think?

Random click bait for you all.

Dating two people at once: why I’m polyamorous and proud

There’s actually a fair amount of discussion that goes on in our Facebook group around sexuality and polyamory. This article touches on a few things that hit close to home for me. Having come out a fair few times (first I was an atheist, then I was queer, then I was gender variant, and now I’m out as poly), it can be rather tricky to traverse all the closets.

There’s a stigma for queer people, either gay males or bisexuals of any gender, that we’re required to be sexually promiscuous. So in some respects there’s a cultural acceptance that we’ll be open, but the understanding is that it’s not necessarily an open and ethical arrangement. We just cheat, right?

Wrong.

Polyamory can be a lot of work. And there are a lot of people who don’t necessarily practice it in healthy ways. But reading about examples of folks from a variety of sexualities can be helpful for us all to find a form of polyamory that works for us.

As we work to change some of those stereotypes around sexuality, polyamory gives us a good system (though we all build our own structures) for expressing our desire, practicing ethical non-monogamy, and helping to build a new culture.

-Isaac

Provo Pride – Another Great Poly Success!

Not to toot our own horns (okay, maybe a little), but we were able to join the Provo Pride festival last Saturday, September 19th. This is our first year at the festival but the third incarnation of it overall. Check out more about Provo Pride here, especially if you’d like to volunteer and get involved.

We had some really excellent conversation about polyamory – what it is, how we practice ethical non-monogamy, and ways to open yourself to multiple relationships. It was also a lovely warm day (after a week of some pretty gnarly weather), so that was a bonus.

Our booth activity is traditionally to have folks draw pictures of their family and their loves. We had some really gorgeous art come from visitors, so we took some pictures to share! Take a gander. 🙂

Ogden Pride Success!

We were able to work with Ogden Pride for a great deal on a booth so that we could represent the many ways people love in another part of Utah. It was a really exciting day as well. Council members Heather, Jessie, and Isaac were able to person the booth for the duration of the one-day event. We saw some old faces (looking at you, Ogden Poly Coffee group!) as well as some new.

Similar to SLC Pride, we did an activity at the booth where people young and old were invited to draw who they love in their poly family/pod/cule! If they were willing after, we hung the family portraits on some string for everyone to enjoy. There are some very interesting poly configurations out there, and this is an excellent way to take a look at just how many there are.

There are many great stories to tell, but one that stood out was a younger person drawing their family and asking some questions bout polyamory in general. After defining the word and explaining it a bit, we asked them if they knew anyone who was poly. After a bit of thought and some head-shaking, their parent stepped in to say “Yes, we do! You know the X’s and then the other family the Y’s? They are poly!”
The young person had a moment of realization dawn on them and started talking more about it with the parent figure as they walked away. Spectacular!

If you have any great Ogden Pride stories or snippets to share (particularly if you came by the booth to say hello) please share in the comments!

Also, you can help us get to Provo Pride as well!

“…sexuality outside the field of monogamy well may open us to a different sense of community, intensifying the question of where one finds enduring ties.”

— Judith Butler, Undoing Gender