Are techies poly? Or are polyamorous people techies?

Are engineers really more likely to be polyamorous?

This looks and feels a bit more like a subtle advertisement for a poly dating website, but it has a few interesting morsels of food for thought. It often appears that a number of the Utah Polyamorists (who actively attend meetups for our group, or that regularly engage fellow members online) are technically savvy and are bent toward engineering-related fields.

If we were to conduct a census, would that feeling stack up against the numbers? Could we draw anything from it? It may be that polyamorists who are more technical to begin with come forward to join online forums and utilize new forms of digital dating, rather than those folks composing a good percentage of the overall polyamorous population pie.

What do you think?

(I.)

 

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Polyamorous Civil Rights?

Polyamory Is Next, And I’m One Reason Why

This article is definitely not clear on what’s “next” for polyamory, though I assume it’s civil rights and more formal recognition of individuality outside the constraints of a standard monogamous marriage model. But there are likely as many questions around how to do that as there are ways in which to practice polyamory.

Should we look to have marriages make room for open relationships and polyamory? Or should we instead focus on improved individual rights and look to get rid of marriage entirely?

If we open things up to permit polyamorous marriages, that would certain add layers of complexity to a variety of elements in life: divorce, custody or property rights, and all the way down to who the primary contact is for a child in school.

Are we taking all the romance away from marriage (particularly with America’s focus on marrying for love) by turning the system into something more akin to contract law? Do poly families simply need a cut and dry method for creating a small legal entity (like an LLC) to be recognized in society? Would that take all the fun out of it?

With the battle for equal marriage having made great strides, it would also be prudent to look at what it took to gain that recognition – asking our government to strip away “marriage” entirely at this stage would be a very long battle. Polaymorists would not have the support of the monogamous queer community behind them, either.

All that aside, there is a general problem in the author’s argument. They discuss independence and individuality without ever looking at the potential desire or need for splitting from their partner and co-parent in order to become truly solo and self-reliant.

A final question after reading this article might instead be…is the author truly polyamorous? Or are they just looking to add some spice into the bedroom of their existing relationship? Is this person looking at and approaching poly from the right perspective?

(I.)

Ogden Pride Success!

We were able to work with Ogden Pride for a great deal on a booth so that we could represent the many ways people love in another part of Utah. It was a really exciting day as well. Council members Heather, Jessie, and Isaac were able to person the booth for the duration of the one-day event. We saw some old faces (looking at you, Ogden Poly Coffee group!) as well as some new.

Similar to SLC Pride, we did an activity at the booth where people young and old were invited to draw who they love in their poly family/pod/cule! If they were willing after, we hung the family portraits on some string for everyone to enjoy. There are some very interesting poly configurations out there, and this is an excellent way to take a look at just how many there are.

There are many great stories to tell, but one that stood out was a younger person drawing their family and asking some questions bout polyamory in general. After defining the word and explaining it a bit, we asked them if they knew anyone who was poly. After a bit of thought and some head-shaking, their parent stepped in to say “Yes, we do! You know the X’s and then the other family the Y’s? They are poly!”
The young person had a moment of realization dawn on them and started talking more about it with the parent figure as they walked away. Spectacular!

If you have any great Ogden Pride stories or snippets to share (particularly if you came by the booth to say hello) please share in the comments!

Also, you can help us get to Provo Pride as well!